You Gotta Have “Want To!”

by Eugene on March 24, 2011


More often than not, the difference between someone who makes it happen and the person who wishes it would happen can be explained with two words: Want To! The interesting thing about “Want To!” is it can’t be taught.  I can teach you all day long “how to” do a thing but no one can instill the “Want To!” in your heart. “Want To!” brings to mind words like determination, perseverance, tenacity, persistence, conviction, dedication, and resolve!  All unteachable!

For those of you who have read my material in the past, you know I love to use examples from various sports.  Although I coach basketball, let’s look at an example from professional tennis, the Williams sisters.  Do Venus and Serena know “how to” play?  Of course, no one would argue that.  Do they possess “Want To!” Absolutely!  Before they knew how to play tennis at a high level, something got them to the courts for hours and hours of practice while other girls their age may have been jumping double dutch.  Fast forward to the time after each of them won their 1st championship.  Did they win one and decide to retire?  Nope, “Want To!” kept them on the practice court, continuing to work on their craft, even as champions because they knew that’s what it would take to maintain high-level performance ability.

You have to have a level of pride which pushes you to “Want To!” get better!  “Want To!” keeps you up late at night!  “Want To!” moves you to the seminar or motivates you to find the mentor!  If you’re in sales and you have a quota, “Want To!” won’t let you sleep until it’s done!  “Want To!” takes you out of the lazy river of mediocrity and puts you on the exhilarating water slides of life!

Here are 3 ways to spark “Want To!” in your life:

  1. Challenge Yourself– Anything that’s going to ignite your passion will have to be challenging or else you’ll get bored and fizzle out.  It should be within your reach but just outside your grasp.  I always hear Les Brown say, “the problem isn’t that people aim to high and miss…the problem is that most folks aim too low and hit.”  Challenge yourself, it will make you feel alive!
  2. Give Someone Permission to Hold You Accountable– Tell someone what you “Want To!” make happen and give them permission to call you out.  When you grant someone this access you have nowhere to hide.  If your boss gives you a deadline to complete a project, more often than not, you get it done on time because you know your job may be on the line.  You have to create that scenario in other aspects of your life!
  3. Don’t Let Yourself Off the Hook– Ultimately it comes down to you because if the person from #2 doesn’t show up then you still must hold yourself accountable.  Make and keep promises to yourself!

So in order to accomplish anything great in life, you gotta have “Want To!” Life is giving you the green light!



{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

1 AIMEE March 25, 2011 at 10:55 pm

Powerful….but at times so hard to execute. I would love to be in a different economic bracket but soooooo relaxed (for lack of better words) and tied down in my everyday living. Hopefully the information you are sharing will stimulate my desire to think outside the box>;)


2 eugene March 26, 2011 at 5:04 am

Hey Aimee, you’re not alone. Lots of folks desire and deserve to be in a different economic bracket. I like that you are taking responsibility for your current situation while many others are blaming everyone and everything else. That puts you much closer to your goals than you realize! As you said, it is a challenge to execute the “Want To!” at times which makes the success that much sweeter. Find your ‘why’ for wanting to be in a different place and use it to push you. Make it larger than the money, what will the money allow you to do? And lastly, there’s nothing wrong with being relaxed just make sure it’s a relaxed intensity and watch the magic you create! I know you can!


3 Aginah Shaw March 24, 2011 at 1:39 am


That “Want To” spirit you reference is s powerful. I know the mind and body are connected. Can you speak to ways we should fuel our bodies in order to perform at our optimum mentally? I’m trying to tap into some new information that will expand my references.


4 eugene March 24, 2011 at 4:16 am

You are correct Aginah, the mind and body are connected! It’s amazing how many people say they want to do more, have more, and be more but they neglect the only thing as important as their time…their health. What good is the wealth if you don’t have your health? “Slight Edge” author, Jeff Olson, explains that “we are digging our graves with our teeth.” It’s hard to do well if you don’t feel well! I’ve always had a fairly decent diet, or so I thought, and a few months ago made an even more drastic shift towards better food choices. Since you are such a loyal reader, tomorrow’s post will be all about fueling our bodies for optimal performance! I can tell you this, it starts with lots of high quality H2O!


5 Allison Walker March 24, 2011 at 1:36 am

Fantastic! The power of your pen is awesome! Once again you have come up with something to help me motivate myself in order for me to get after my “want to!” I’ve been a slacker when it has come down to my weight and my health. I believe that I know how to achieve it. What really is important is that I get to it and never stop until I get it done! Failure is an option but certainly not mine’s. Please keep it coming!


6 eugene March 24, 2011 at 4:03 am

“Failure is an option but certainly not mine!” I love it! Definitely using that one!


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