Everything Works Out!

by Eugene on March 4, 2011

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Anyone, who knows me well, knows I wholeheartedly believe Everything Works Out!  In the midst of temporary setbacks, circumstances which may arouse cause for concern, or even situations which appear to be hopeless I always believe Everything Works Out!  And you should too!  I used to wonder if things worked out because I believe they would or if I believed they would because they always worked out.  I’d imagine it’s a combination of both!  So often we get all bent out of shape and fearful over things that either never happen or are so far out of our control that worrying is rendered futile.  One of my favorite prayers:

The Serenity Prayer
God grant me 
The Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The Courage to change the things I can, and
The Wisdom to know the difference.
The message here is so powerful, it says so much with so few words!  Think about all the times in your life when, had you only prayed these simple yet powerful words, your experience would have been tremendously less stressful.  We could spend days discussing the various examples.  One quick example we can look at, which I’m sure you have either witnessed or experienced, is road rage.  I’ve seen people ready to blow a gasket in their vehicles if someone cuts them off, isn’t moving fast enough, doesn’t respond to the traffic light quick enough, and on and on.  Folks go from 0 to furious in no time flat!  And then, if one driver has an opportunity to pull up next to the other, you have the infamous stare down.  Is it really that serious?  I’m not a doctor but I’d imagine all that stress puts a strain on the heart.   Now, we used road rage as the example here but feel free to use whatever example fits in your life.      
Following are three tools I use to remain stress-free in the face of all sorts of circumstances:
  1. Choose to Believe the Best:  Staying with our road rage example, if someone is on the road and moving slower than I’d like, I choose to believe that this person needs to drive at that speed to prevent an accident.  I choose to accept them for the driver they are and to recognize that as a result of their driving, I’m more likely to arrive at my destination safely.  It’s my choice.  It’s your choice as well.  I choose to believe everyone does the best they can with the information they have.  You can control your belief and choices, you cannot control someone else.
  2. Breathe Deeply:  Have you ever noticed when you get upset, stressed, or nervous, your breathing becomes shallow and quick?  There is great emphasis on breath in yoga practices because, as Jennibagus suggests, “breathing is important for two basic reasons, 1. it is the only means of supplying our bodies and its various organs with oxygen which is vital to our health and 2. breathing is one of the ways to get rid of waste products and toxins from our bodies.”  Negative emotions fall under the categories of waste products and toxins.  The next time you feel anger, nervousness, and any other feeling you’d like not to experience, focus on your breathing.  Is it quick and shallow or relaxed and deep?  Breathe deeply and you will experience an immediate state change!
  3. Smile:  Try smiling and feeling bad at the same time.  Not possible.  A positive and negative emotion can’t occupy the same space.  Choose the positive emotion.  I’m reminded of a quote by Stanley Gordon West, “Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone.”  Scientifically speaking, it only takes 17 facial muscles to generate a smile whereas frowning requires the use of 43 muscles.  So in actuality you have to work harder to produce a frown than smile.  Some might call that a clue!  The word S.M.I.L.E. is really just an abbreviation for Showing My Inner Love to Everyone!  Even if you need to manufacture a smile, it’s much better than the alternative.  I’ve always been taught, and you may have as well, to act the way you want to feel and soon you’ll feel the way you act.  So, if necessary, manufacture a smile long enough and before you know it, authenticity will radiate from your pearly whites!

 Take these with as you move throughout your day, Choose to Believe the Best, Breathe Deeply, Smile, and always remember Everything Works Out!

Life is Giving You the Green Light!
GO!

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1 Eugene Bell March 8, 2011 at 4:01 pm

Thanks Marla! And I've seen with my own eyes how that "little" audience of yours lights up when you're in the classroom! You are great at what you do and they will remember their classroom experience for many years to come! Thanks for visiting!

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2 Marla March 8, 2011 at 1:06 am

I appreciate this article. Everyday I walk into an environment that forces me to let go of the things that I can not change, and boy it is not easy! But because of my little audience I have to put on a happy face and SMILE! Good one Mr. Bell!

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3 Eugene Bell March 5, 2011 at 5:39 am

Thank you! You're not alone Allison, choose to Believe the Best and stress will begin to disappear!

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4 Allison March 4, 2011 at 11:06 pm

This was a fantastic read! There were so many times that I really stressed out about all types of situations that was going on in my life and could have used these simple steps. The one thing that I try to do all the time is smile and everyone that I meet. I am going to work on Believing the Best! Eugene, you certainly live up to your words.

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